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Nope, My Short Hair Cut Still Isn’t the Same as Rape Thought Catalog

18 Jun

So Thought Catalog published a post by resident asshat and all around terrible person Gavin McInnes back in March that I thankfully missed because my Facebook feed knows better than to recommend posts entitled “Hey, Ladies! Short Hair Is Rape”, “When Is It OK To Hit A Woman?”, and “Having Kids Turns You Into A Complete Fag”. McInnes relies on radically hateful language to bring in audiences. There is no nuance or thought to what he writes. He writes what he does for pure shock value, which I find funny for someone writing for a blog entitled “Thought Catalog”. He insults and rejects his critics by calling them uneducated plebes. It upsets me because I have seen some really interesting and funny content come from this site, but this has me wanting to leave them forever.

So the post, “Hey, Ladies! Short Hair Is Rape”, was offensive enough. The fact that Thought Catalog kept it up and allowed him to post a follow-up “No, Short Hair Is Not Literally Rape, You F#cking Idiots!” was just depressing. I don’t want to link the posts here because I don’t want this man getting any more attention than he has already received. It really doesn’t surprise me that he is a frequent guest on Fox News. Ugh.

Ok so back to the original post. It is the same type of patriarchal, woman hating, rape culture writing that has been blowing up the web and putting me in an all around bad mood over the past few months. Everyone remember the recent slough of bad posts on rape over at the Washington Post? Here’s a reminder. And here.

The title of the post alone suggests that McInnes has no idea what rape means.

So here, Mr. McInnes, is what I have to say to you.

As a survivor of rape who also has friends and loved ones that are survivors of rape let me just say McInnes, you have no idea what you are talking about. So please shut up. Your post was offensive to those of us who are still dealing with the trauma that we overcame. It undercuts and devalues our experience. And that alone should have been enough to warrant a withdrawal of the post, or at least an apology.

You state that when a woman gets her hair cut short that she is “Saying yes to yourself and no to us(men)” which is fine, according to you, if  “You want to check out of society for a year”. I really don’t even know where to begin with this one. As if saying yes to ourselves is a bad thing? Something that warrants hiding away from society? I myself have my hair shaved down at the moment, but that is neither here nor there. The point is women (and men) cut their hair for various reasons that may or may not have anything to do with what you Mr. McInnes, in your very limited world view find attractive. We are autonomous beings that exist outside of what you find attractive. I personally cut my hair because it’s hot as Hades in New Orleans right now and I am training for my second marathon. Short hair is cool hair.1382801_10152309050728957_652875986_n

Also, I feel sexy as hell.

But I don’t need to explain myself to you. That’s not the point. No one harasses you when you choose to cut your hair, grow it out, decide on a beard, opt in for a goatee. Whereas women and women’s bodies are constantly policed. If I decide not to shave my legs for a month I am making a statement. If I then decide to shave my legs I am making an equally powerful statement. I wear a skirt that is too short? I am a slut, I wear a one-piece bikini, I am a prude. I decide to cut off all of my hair and my upstairs neighbors assume my roommate and I are life-partners (true story). A woman cannot make a decision about her body without someone somewhere having something to say about it. Everything we do is valued only as much as men appreciate it. And that is the problem with a patriarchal culture. Well one of the problems. And only one of the problems with your piece McInnes.

You say that my short hair is “More than unattractive. Its rape” And then you follow up by saying “No, Short Hair Is Not Literally Rape, You F#cking Idiots!”. Well let me begin by saying if you really think your audience is that stupid maybe you should be more clear in your language. But also, yes I understood that you were trying to use rape as hyperbole, as a metaphor here. For what, I am not entirely sure. (By the way, when I said New Orleans is hot as Hades right now that was a simile. And a hyperbole. Just to be clear.)

In a culture where women’s bodies are constantly objectified, where men such as yourself seem to think that they have some kind of claim over them, a post such as this only serves to further the idea that consent is some silly slogan those “crazy feminists” throw around, rather than something that is essential for safe and healthy sexual encounters.

You say the definition of rape is being diluted. Rape is and always will be a lack of consent. Don’t forget that. Sometimes rape is coming home to a husband/boyfriend who believes that because you are his wife/girlfriend he is entitled to sex. Sometimes rape is waking up the next morning naked, bruised, and alone with only the haziest of memories of your assault. Sometimes rape is having a family member tell you that it’s your little secret. Sometimes rape is having your employer tell you no one will believe you. Sometimes rape is a group of men on a crowded train with no one intervening. Sometimes rape is an acquaintance, or friend taking advantage of you on a night out. Sometimes rape is the man your family hired to get you across the border assaulting you night after night because he knows that you can’t do anything. And yes sometimes rape is a stranger in a dark alley with a knife. Not to mention countless other scenarios.

So no Mr. McInnes, we are not diluting the definition of rape, we are trying to help survivors understand that what happened to them is not and never will be ok. We are trying to help them receive the support and help that they deserve without being ostracized or blamed by the very institutions put in place to keep them safe.

Rape is not having sex with a girl with short hair. Don’t disparage this very real issue for the sake of getting hits on your half-wit post. It’s not responsible and it’s not funny. I’m not even going to touch on your horific use of the word tranny or your statement that “(men) aren’t intimidated by anything that has a vagina”. I mean, not right now anyway.

Here are some rape jokes, rape satire that work in case you are interested. Maybe you can learn to be funny? I doubt it.

Young Democrats of New Orleans Candidate Forum

22 Jan

When? Tonight from 5:30-8:00

Where? Bridge Lounge, Magazine Street, New Orleans, LA, United States Map

Why? To hear from candidates for mayor, sheriff, coroner, clerk of Criminal District Court. To make informed decisions about who your voting for!

I hope you all can make it!

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Early Voting Begins Today!

18 Jan

Early voting for the February 1 primary begin today and run till January 25. With the exception of Sunday, all voting centers (save one which is only open Saturdays) are open 8:30am-6:00pm. Up on the ballots are candidates for mayor, sheriff, coroner, clerk of Criminal District Court and six of the seven City Council seats. There are also measures to renew annual property fees in six neighborhood security and improvement districts.

You can watch last Thursday’s televised Mayoral debate here.

The voting sites are located at City Hall on 1300 Perdido St., the Algiers Courthouse on 225 Morgan St., the Voting Machine Warehouse at 8870 Chef Menteur Highway in New Orleans East, and the Regional Transportation Management Center at 10 Veterans Memorial Blvd., between West End and Pontchartrain boulevards. The final voting center will be open only on Saturdays. It was added to make voting easier for residents of the western side of the city.

Medicaid Expansion Public Action Rally in New Orleans

15 Jan
Thursday, January 16, 2014
6:30 PM
New Orleans City Council – Council Chambers
1300 Perdido Street
New Orleans, la 70112

The Jeremiah Group Healthcare Team, together with Councilwoman Latoya Cantrell, is holding a Medicaid Expansion Public Action Rally.

Joining will be Senator Karen Carter Peterson to tell about her new Medicaid Expansion bill, along with other elected officials for the 2014 Legislative Session.

Tanzie Jones of the Louisiana Healthcare Cooperative will be onsite to provide information about affordable health insurance.

Dr. Don Erwin of the St. Thomas Community Health Clinic will speak to need for Medicaid Expansion for our state and Ms. Barbara Major and her team will be onsite to make appointments to help people enroll affordable health insurance.

Please RSVP to jeremiahgroupno@yahoo.com or call (504) 491-1179 by Tuesday evening.

Roe v. Wade and the New Jane Crow: Reproductive Justice in the Age of Mass Incarceration

15 Jan

Another event that is sure to be informative, featuring Lynn Paltrow, executive director, National Advocates for Pregnant Women.

Date: Thursday, January 30, 2014
Time: 7:00 PM
Building: Woldenberg Art Center, Freeman
Location: uptown campus

Lynn Paltrow, JD, is the executive director and founder of the National Advocates for Pregnant Women. A graduate of Cornell University and New York University School of Law, she has worked on numerous cases challenging retrictions on the right to choose abortion as well as cases opposing the prosecution and punishment of pregnant women seeking to continue their pregnancies to term.

Ms. Paltrow has served as a senior staff attorney at the ACLU’s Reproductive Freedom Project, as Director of Special Litigation at the Center for Reproductive Law and Policy, and as Vice President for Public Affairs for Planned Parenthood of New York City. Ms. Paltrow conceived of and filed the first affirmative federal civil rights challenge to a hospital policy of searching pregnant women for evidence of drug use and turning that information over to police.

A reception will follow the talk.

Sponsored by: Newcomb College Institute as well as Vox: Voices of Planned Parenthood

Admission: Free
Attendance: Open to the public
Open to: Alumni, Faculty, Graduate students, Parents, Prospective undergrads, Staff, Undergraduates, Visitors

For more information contact Laura Wolford via email to lwolford@tulane.edu

Louisiana National Organization for Women (NOW) Event- Why Courts Matter: Creating a Diverse and Representative Judiciary

14 Jan

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

7:00 PM to 8:30 PM

Touro Synagogue

4238 St. Charles Ave, New Orleans, LA

The event will host three dynamic speakers discussing the importance of the courts to women and society.

Speakers include

Sally Kenney, Executive Director, Newcomb College Institute

Ellen Buchman, VP  of The Leadership Conference on Human & Civil Rights, Wash., DC

Terry O’Neill, President National Organization for Women (NOW)

Moderator María Pabón López,  Dean,  Loyola College of Law

There will also be a lunchtime presentation for Tulane/Loyola Law students earlier in the day

Moderator: David D. Meyer, Dean Tulane Law School

Noon -1pm on the Loyola Campus

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